So… any boys in your life? I can actually answer that with a yes this time

So… remember Frodo who I thought was into me and then I was sure he was into me and then I determined that he was into someone else? Well, he is really throwing me off.
We’ve all hung out together (as a group) once or twice after the last post where that random girl showed up. During those times, I was friendly but I didn’t go out of my way to capture him in conversation.
Fast forward to a few nights ago when we were both hammered at a party. Initially, I floated around because I knew a lot of people and I said hi to Frodo in passing. Later on I saw him talking to a few girls but I had chalked him up to a loss a long time ago. Later on, I was talking to some mutual friends when he comes up to us and says we should all go dance. We get onto the dance floor, he pulls me towards him and now we’re getting down and dirty (P.S. As extensive as his list of skills and accomplishments is… Frodo can’t dance, it was painful).
While we’re dancing, I try to keep it casual with some light conversation but a few of our mutual friends started watching us, hollering and making rude gestures and besides that, Frodo’s hand was moving closer and closer to my ass. At this point, I found it appropriate to inform Frodo that although I thought he was cute, I wasn’t going to sleep with him. He said he knew I wasn’t and that it made him like me better (I know, roll eyes).
To be honest, dancing with him was a blur. I remember talking about music, about the party, about people there and I had the feeling that if this kept going the way it was going, I was heading towards a makeout session.
Of course, now that we’ve been dancing for a whole 20 minutes,  G’s internal man-repelling alarm starts going off and my mind starts searching for excuses as to how I can get myself out of this situation. I immediately pull in a friend who was dancing close to me and her boyfriend (who is a little bit of a perv). Somehow, the topic moves to lesbian kissing and my friend’s boyfriend and Frodo start egging me and my friend to make out. They’re both drunk and were pretty desperate so friend and I obliged them with a quick peck. They were obviously not satisfied with that but the whole girl-on-girl mania was pissing me off especially since Frodo was endorsing it. I cut myself loose and started talking to a friend.
A few minutes later, I decided to leave. I found Frodo talking to one of his friends that I had been introduced to that day. I told him I was leaving and hugged him, hugged the new friend (who is also cute) for good measure, answered in an affirmative to Frodo’s question about whether I was leaving already and I peaced out.
I don’t know what this boy was playing at exactly. But my little defensive shield tells me that he realized I was into him and wanted to take advantage of that. I want to be off the mark but I don’t know if I am or not. He was really fun  to dance with but I didn’t notice him making a lot of effort to talk to me beforehand and that makeoutwithgirls stuff really set off my pig-radar. Yes, I realize that he was hammered and that he is usually a perfect gentleman et cetera et cetera but I found it unnerving.
I’m happy that I didn’t make out with him but I’m unhappy that I don’t know what I’m doing. I feel like my instinctual scan of his reaction towards me was disappointing. Otherwise, I’d be leaping for joy on the way home rather than be confused.
The thing is, this doesn’t happen to me. I mean, in real life as in people I know and not drunk at a bar somewhere in Vegas. I’ve never had interactions where a guy I wouldn’t mind dating is making the moves on me. I’m the unrequited-love girl, not the mutual-connection girl. I don’t know what to do about this boy who I see randomly once or twice a month who may be involved with someone but is really perfect and I just…
Even if I want to make the leap, I don’t know how. And I’m stuck,
I’m stuck between wanting to make the leap and being played for a fool. I hate not feeling good enough and my confidence has been shot as it is. I’ve finally started gaining some as I’ve lost weight. I don’t want to annihilate it completely again.