So I’m not really sure if you’ve heard about this but a month or two ago, I was virgin-post hunting and ended up stumbling on something pretty interesting.
I’ll post bits and pieces from the Wikipedia page but I highly suggest actually reading up on it yourself.
Involuntary celibacy is the absence in human sexuality of intimate relationships or sexual intercourse for reasons other than voluntary celibacy, asexuality, antisexualism, or sexual abstinence… [it] describes those who, despite being open to sexual intimacy and potential romance with someone and also making active, repeated efforts towards such an end, cannot cause any such end(s) to occur with any significant degree of regularity—or even at all… First, it is a pattern-like, semi-perpetual condition that cannot seem to improve despite concentrated effort of the affected individual towards improving sex appeal and social skills to try to attract sexual partners. Second, involuntarily celibate individuals are at a complete or near-complete lack for intimate physical connection for very long spans of time—years and even sometimes decades, not merely weeks or months—and are also at a complete or near-complete lack of opportunities for sexual advancement in the first place, thereby making betterment of their own sexuality through accumulation of “sexual experience” impossible… most incels, based on inquests by researchers into the population, are not especially physically unattractive, and most resemble in an interpersonal sense their peers who are not involuntarily celibate.
There is a forum for incels (involuntary celibates) located over here. It takes a few days for the administrators to approve your account for posting but you can read some posts while waiting. Although most of the demographic seem to be male, women can be involuntary celibate too (did I really need to say that?).
What I find really interesting is some of the resources that have been posted up. For instance:
1. A link to Dan Savage’s advice for losing your virginity later in life
2. The incel’s guide to seeking therapy
3. And the best one of all success stories
Anyway, I think everyone should take the time to check it out. There’s some good stuff there.